Last week was eye opening for me in so many ways.
Not only did I get some “not so great” news that allowed me to really feel into the surrender and trust that I’ve been working towards for the past 4 years in life…
But I was also blessed with speaking with 10 women one-on-one over the course of the week.
And in these conversations I realized something (OK… I’ve known it for a while but it really clicked for me at a different level last week).
Every single woman I spoke with wanted to know more about my upcoming Break Free From Sugar Group Program that’s starting in September. And in those conversations I could tell that they were excited and more than ready to finally do the inner work that will create a lasting healthy relationship with food/sugar.
BUT…
Every single woman hesitated because of ONE common fear.
The fear of failing.
“I won’t make it through the 4 weeks sugar-free in the program”
“I’ll give up halfway through”
“What if I don’t get the results I want?”
“I’ve failed at everything in the past so this will be no different…”
However you say it, it’s the same fear. The fear of failing. Of not getting the result you want or the change in your life/body that you’re ready for.
When these conversations came up last week, this was my response:
“What if failing was the GOAL?”
“What if you were encouraged to fail?”
I was always met with a moment of pause and confusion.
Because this is a DRAMATICALLY different way of looking at failure than we’re taught in our culture.
It goes against everything we thought we knew or believed.
And it’s actually the single biggest mindset shift any of us can make if we want to achieve our goals or grow in our lives.
I’m beyond grateful for my coach and my own journey to completely changing my relationship with failure over the last few years.
Now I see failure as a GIFT. A chance to grow and learn. A mandatory step on my way to my goals. If I’m not failing at something daily, I’m not doing it right. I’m not growing.
You see…
We can’t achieve anything great in our lives WITHOUT failing. It’s a necessary step on the way.
Did you learn to walk without ever falling down?
Did you learn to drive without making a few wrong turns first?
Did you find the love of your life on the first try or did you have to go through a few duds first?
You get the point. Failure is our BEST teacher. It’s the one thing that helps us learn at a deeper level about ourselves, what we want, and how to course correct on our way to our goals.
So, what if we let go of the “worry” or “fear” around failure and actually embraced it… celebrated it… welcomed it in?
How would things change for you?
Would you try more new things?
Would you invest in your health in a different way?
Would you learn more about yourself along the way?
As my mentor says:
“There is no such thing as failure. You either get the result you wanted or the lesson you needed”
And after all of these incredible conversations last week, each of the women who originally noticed this fear holding them back, realized that it was in fact the reason they would never change their health and stay exactly right where they are (or worse). I’m happy to report that once they realized this as part of the journey they jumped in and registered for the program in September (wahoo!)
Knowing that creating a new relationship with failure is a big part of the program, they were eager to jump in and do this work.
We’ll be CELEBRATING our failures together, in a safe, supportive, and intimate group over the 10-weeks.
If any of this resonates with you, and you’re ready to take a hard look at how failure has been holding you back from taking the leap into a new and healthier version of yourself, let’s chat!
As I mentioned, failure is just one of the many topics we’ll dive into in the program as we discover a completely new and truly free relationship with food and our bodies in just 10 weeks.
Because of the small intimate size of the program (maximum 15 women) and the fact that we’re already 55% full, don’t hesitate to connect with me to learn more as soon as possible.
Click here to book a free consultation to see if it’s a good fit for you.
I hope this gives you something new to think about.
I hope you see the possibilities ahead of you and the choice that you can make to re-define failure for yourself.
So…. right now… what is ONE failure from this week that you can celebrate? What did you learn from that failure? (I’d love to hear it – hit reply to this email and let me know)
I look forward to hearing from you soon!
Now get out there and fail at something today 😉
Love & Light,
Dani